Bedroom Matters: How Good S*x Help Couples

 

The way you express your s*xuality is shaped by your acquisition of relevant knowledge and also by your individuality and your personal circumstances. Whether you’re newlyweds or in a long time marital relationship, s*xually challenged or able-bodied, young or old couples, think of your s*xuality as a unique part of who you are.

As the saying goes, fine wine and classic cars improve with age, so also let your s*xuality and marriage relationship improve as the days go by. There are many “right” ways to experience great s*x.

Today, we shall be looking into how to keep the s*xual love life healthy and hot for years to come.
When able-bodied men noticed that their erec-tion is different from what it used to be or is not as hard and does not last as long, coupled with the fact that the experience of ejacu-lation may not feel as strong as it used to, they are quick to associate virility with youthfulness. But I have found out that this may be due, in part, to just the weakening of the pelvic-floor muscles. Pelvic-floor muscles are responsible for drawing blood to the geni-tals during s*xual activity, affecting erec-tion and orgasm. 

And all that is needed is just a daily regime of Kegel exercise. The exercise actually fixes the problem up to 100 percent regardless of age or prevailing circumstances.

Another common occurrence men of all ages notice at one time or the other is the experience of a longer refractory period; this is the time it takes the body to be ready for another erec-tion after the first ejacu-lation, the period between the first and the next ejacu-lation. In some cases, the cooling off period may be as long as 12 to 24 hours or more or never. If you’ve clima-xed, but you or your wife isn’t ready for the s*xual experience to end just yet, the best approach is to focus on meeting your wife’s needs or on activities that don’t require an immediate erec-tion. 

For example, you don’t need an erec-tion for giving your wife an oral s*x or manually stimulating her cli-toris or sucking her bre*st or giving her a heavy fore-play that leaves her panting and wanting more. The magic of this is, it helps you to forget about your present predicament and refocus your attention on some other thing. This will spontaneously give an unexpected strong magical erec-tion.

However, remember that whatever you do, don’t get stressed worrying about your virility. This is a sudden occurrence that comes once in a while and not a sign that you’re losing your touch. And you will likely find that the different s*xual activities you engage in without an erec-tion are still very pleasurable for you and your wife. Just be sure to reassure your wife that the longer time between your erec-tions is not a reflection of how you feel about her. 

One of the best ways you can take control of this occasional occurrence is to press the end of your p*nis into her cli-toral head while you are thrusting in and out. Make sure you linger in her vagi-nal entrance, where the most sensitive nerve endings are. So instead of deep ‘gbam’ ‘gbam’ thrusting, just focus on small, shallow thrusting movements that penetrate the first two to three inches of her vagi-na. This will not only help you to master the ejacu-lation but will trigger your wife’s arousal even if she has 3rd degree female genital mutilation [circumcision] and she will be 90 per cent of the time have a good or-gasm. 

The trick here is when you help her have an or-gasm first, it relieves you of some of the pressure to perform and the psychological anxiety that feeds into pre-mature ejacu-lation. Wave off an early emission with some extra attention to her arousal because many husbands by this last much longer the second time around. And the more you practise, the longer that first time will last.

One best thing that helps this is to make your wife stay on top always. When she’s on top, your p*nis is less stimulated, then ask her to go slowly and slowly; long and fast thrusting is hazardous to a man’s endurance. This is because the area of the brain responsible for triggering or-gasm is always engaged when having s*x, whether you’re trying to have an ejacu-lation or trying to control ejacu-lation. Whichever way, just know that the more attention you give it, the more likely it is to arrive. So focus on what’s happening now, your wife’s silky thighs on your hips, or her erec-ted nip-ple on your bre*st and before you know it, you’ll diffuse pleasure throughout your whole body instead of premature ejacu-lation.

Your health plays an important role in how you experience s*x. This is because your body is a complex network of systems that must function properly in order for you to live your best. However, three particular systems take centre stage when it comes to keeping pleasure alive and well in the bedroom as you age; they are the nervous system, cardio-vascular system and endocrine system. It’s really important for these three systems to work well in order for a couple to successfully enjoy their s*x life.

Getting s*xually excited in the first place all starts with one of the most vital parts of a man’s central nervous system, the brain. So the brain is the most important s*xual organ that you have (aside from the p*nis), because you need to be in a good place mentally and emotionally to enjoy the benefits of a healthy s*x life. When you neglect a good eating lifestyle, diseases can damage your nerves like diabetes, which can interrupt nerve signals to the p*nis and lead to erec-tile dysfunction (ED), with other problems like incontinence of urine which can also damage the nerves.

As arousal works its way from the brain to the rest of the body, a healthy heart and cardio-vascular system play another big role in the s*x life of a couple. Each of the two helps you maintain an erec-tion. Blood has to flow into your p*nis when you’re excited, and then back out after you’ve achieved or-gasm. More importantly, the same kind of plaque that could clog the arteries and lead to heart attack can also restrict blood flow to the p*nis, resulting in ED. That’s why a healthy heart is so key to helping a man of any age to avoid below-the-belt problems.

Finally, the endocrine system comes into play via certain hormonal changes in the body. This is where the male hormone, testosterone, is put to the test. A decrease in the testosterone levels is normal as any man gets older but it must not be hampered by sickness, use of substance, pollution and bad eating habit. 

Because lack of it is a big reason why many men may feel low on energy and drive when it comes to having the kind of s*x you would have loved to enjoy.

by FUNMI AKINGBADE

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